从舅舅家回来后，我联系刘健君约会，她说她忙，没时间。我去向张利民宿舍的室友们请教此事。还没说完我和刘健君的事，张利民笑得闭不上嘴了，对我说：“别误会！你进屋一说女朋友，甲同学就告诉我，你今天是来向我们请教如何解决你的那个女朋友的问题。”他又对甲：“真神！你没说卢岩病了，我还真没看出来！咋才见几面，他就闹心成这样了！？”
After returning from my uncle's house, I contacted Eve Liu for a date, but she said she was busy and had no time. I went to ask my roommates in Zhang Limin's dormitory for advice on the matter. Before I could finish talking about Eve Liu and I, Zhang Limin couldn't shut his mouth from laughing and said to me: "Don't get me wrong! As soon as you came into the room and said girlfriend, Classmate A told me that you came here today to ask us for advice on how to solve that girlfriend problem of yours." He added to A: "Holy! I didn't really see it until you said Luyan was sick! How come he's so upset after just a few dates!"
同学甲说： “就有这样的人，那个女的就是个让人闹心的人！我给你举个例子说，咱这些人正在这讨论得热闹呢，她来了，说几句，就掩（杀）倒咱这一群人。她的知识面比咱们宽，看得就是比咱们深。那咱们还能说啥！”
Classmate A said: "There are such people, that girl is a disturbing person! Let me give you an example. We are having a lively discussion here, she comes and says a few words, houses up (pinches, kills) our group of people. Her knowledge is wider than ours, and she sees deeper than we do. What else can we say?"
张利民问：“你咋知道那个女的就是那样儿的人？”
乙同学说：“看看咱们东北大学天才班那帮疯子，谁能整得了！中国医科大学天才班的学生肯定比咱东大的疯多了！”
Zhang Limin asked, "How do you know that woman is that kind of person?"
Classmate B said, "Look at those crazy people in the genius class at our Northeastern University, who can handle them! The students in the genius class at China Medical University are much crazier than our Northeastern!"
张利民说：“我还挺喜欢他们呢！找个有学问的女朋友，挣钱多，有啥不好！卢岩为啥闹心？”
同学甲说： “受气！又说不过人家，整的连话都不敢说了，人家看不起你！那个女的优点明显，卢岩否定不了；缺点突出，卢岩忍受不了。处与不处，卢岩决定不了，所以问咱们来了。” 甲对我说：“这个不行！长痛不如短痛，当即立断！”
Zhang Limin said: "I quite like them! What's wrong with finding an educated girlfriend who earns more money! Why is Luyan so upset?"
Classmate A said: "Being squeezed (pinched, housed)! Speeches are inferior to her, even dare not to speak! She despises you! The girl's advantages are obvious, Luyan can not deny; shortcomings are prominent, Luyan can not countenance. Luyan can't decide whether to get along or not, so he came to ask us. This won't work! Long pain is worse than short pain, break up immediately!"
张利民对他说：“哎！哎！卢岩没让你给做决定！这才刚认识。时间长了，你咋知道那女的不会喜欢上卢岩，让着他呢！”
他们认为，“诤（1）”是刘健君的个人特质，终生不变，一辈子学不会个“让”字。医大天才班的人，那是全国一流的天才，我卢岩资质平平，和她结婚，我一辈子就只能畏畏缩缩地活着。这婚姻不般配，建议我找个和自己差不多的。
Zhang Limin said to him: "Hey! Ai! Luyan didn't let you make the decision! They've only just met. After a long time, how do you know that the girl will not like Luyan, give way to him!"
They think, "Expostulation (1)" is Eve Liu's personal strong trait, lifelong, can not learn the word "Concession". The people in the genius class of the China Medical University are the first-class geniuses in whole China, and I, Luyan, have mediocre qualifications. If I marry her, I can only live in fear for the rest of my life. This marriage is not a good match, suggest that I find a like me.
我打电话给刘健君，说话支支吾吾的，她说：“我也觉得咱俩不合适。” 就这样，我和她分手了。
一周后，我已经把她忘了，逐渐从不舒服的身心状态恢复了健康。
I called Eve Liu, stammered, she said: "I also think we are not suitable." Thus, she I broke up with me.
A week later, I gradually recovered from the uncomfortable physical and mental state of health, and I had already forgotten about her.
 
注7.6-1，诤是好心劝谏义，但佛认为诤是一切暴乱的起因，故戒诤是佛教社区的第一戒。这个年龄阶段的玉女（夏娃，观音菩萨），诤心特别重。如图7.6-1是古墨西哥的，约20-39岁的翠玉女（夏娃）的特质画。眼睛长在头顶，身体很宽，表示她傲慢，看不起别人。这是释迦摩尼（即亚当，金童，世界末日判官）在给观音菩萨（夏娃，众生之母）加冕时夸她， “无诤住最为第一” （参见《金刚经》的17.2.9 节《禁果 https://web.6parkbbs.com/index.php?app=forum&act=view&tid=4334925》）的原因，旨在提醒她戒诤。
Note 7.6-1, Expostulation is the act of earnestly protesting or remonstrating, but Buddha believes that Expostulation is the cause of all riots, so abstaining from Expostulation is the first precept of the Buddhist community. The Jade Girl (Eve, Guanyin Bodhisattva), at this age, is especially heavy in Expostulation. Figure 7.6-1 is a drawing of the traits of the Jade Girl (Eve) from ancient Mexico, about 20-39 years old. Her eyes are on top of her head and her body is very wide, indicating that she is arrogant and looks down on others. This is the reason why Shakyamuni (i.e., Adam, the Golden Boy, the Judge of the Doomsday) complimented Guanyin Bodhisattva (i.e., Eve, the mother of all living beings) when he coronated her as "The Upmost Number 1 of No Expostulation Dwell” (cf. Section 17.2.9, Forbidden Fruit, of the Diamond Sutra), which was meant to remind her to abstain from expostulation.
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一天中午，路过黄老师的宿舍门口，他叫我过去。我笑着进了他们的房间。黄老师让我走近些；我郑重其事地听。他说：“刘健君她妈让我告诉你，她说你见人往后缩，一说话还脸红，啥也不知道！她不愿意和你相处了。我不是告诉你了，要注意接人待物的举止吗！”
One day at noon, passing by the door of Teacher Huang's dormitory, he called me over. I smiled and entered their room. Teacher Huang asked me to come closer; I listened solemnly. He said: "Eve Liu's mom told me to tell you that she says you shrink back when you see people, blush when you talk, and don't know anything! She doesn't want to get along with you anymore. Didn't I tell you to pay attention to your demeanor in dealing with her!"
我立刻生气地大叫：“她早就告诉我了！” 转身离开了。
黄老师对他室友叨咕：“怎么搞的？这事不用告诉两遍。走，咱俩过去看看！” 他们俩跟到了我的房间。
I immediately yelled in anger: "She told me that already!" Turning away.
Teacher Huang chattered to his roommate: "What the hell? You don't have to tell this twice. Come on, let's both go over and look!" The two of them followed me to my room.
黄老师说：“卢岩伤自尊了！” 他室友叨咕：“他还能伤自尊！”
黄老师对他的室友嚷嚷：“你闭嘴！你看谁都和你自己一样！” 对我说：“这事不怪你，你很好，很正常，是刘健君那丫头太厉害了！”
Teacher Huang said, "Luyan hurt his pride!" His roommate muttered, "He can still hurt his self-esteem!"
Teacher Huang yelled at his roommate: "Shut up! You look at everyone like yourself!" To me, he said: "You're not to blame for this, you're fine and normal, it's that girl Eve Liu who's too powerful!"
我流着眼泪说：“她厉害！那不还是我不行么！” 
他的室友说：“哎呀！卢岩真的哭了，真动情了！怎么反应这么强烈？”
I said with tears in my eyes: "She's awesome! Then it's still me who's not good!" 
His roommate said: "Oops! Luyan really cried and got emotional! Why did you react so strongly?"
黄老师对他说：“这不明摆着的事么！” 对我说：“不是你不行！刘健君是真的与众不同。这丫头挤怼人，那才让人难受呢！你别看我都四十来岁了，在没人的时候，就因为她，我都哭过五、六次了。你看，我就这么帮她介绍男朋友，她怎么对我？你和她见面那天，你都看见了（参见7.3节《相亲 https://web.6parkbbs.com/index.php?app=forum&act=view&tid=4337252》）。有一次，在没别人的时候，她就这样（侧着脸）就咬牙切齿地叨咕，还让我听着，‘没用的东西，这点事儿都办不好，你还能干啥！’诶！我给她介绍男朋友，是给她办事呢；我是看在她爸爸的面子。”
Teacher Huang said to him: "It's not obvious!" To me, he said: "It's not that you are inferior! Eve Liu is different. This girl squeezes dislike, that's what makes it hard! Look at me, I'm in my forties, but when no one's around, I've cried five or six times because of her. Look, I just introduced her to boyfriends, how did she treat me? You saw it the day you met her (cf. section 7.3 Blind Date). Once, when no one else was around, she just gritted her teeth like this (with his face turned sideways) and made me listen, 'Worthless thing, if you can't do this, what else can you do!' Eh! I introduced her to a boyfriend as a favor to her; I did it for her father's sake."
我自己也觉得这事怪，怎么反应这么强烈，说：“我没事，她说的都是事实，只是感觉委屈。”
他的室友说：“没伤自尊，人家都说对了！”
黄老师对他嚷嚷：“说错了怎么能伤自尊呢！” 又对我说：“那丫头看人的短处，那看得才准呢！”
I think this is strange, how to react so strongly, said: "I'm fine, what she said is the truth, just feel aggrieved."
His roommate said: "It didn't hurt his pride; Eve Liu is right!"
Teacher Wong yelled at him: "How can saying the wrong thing hurt self-esteem!" He also said to me: "That girl looks at people's shortcomings, that's only accurate!"
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